Original question from Quora:
What can I learn/know right now in 10 minutes that will be useful for the rest of my life?
Any trait, small trick, or lifehack; anything other than trivia or fact. Something one can learn in 10 minutes or so (and perhaps with a bit of practice every day, excel at) but it must be useful for the person for the remainder of his/her life.
Please note that while someone’s response may not be useful in your life, it can be very important to someone else’s.
Please stop trying to redirect this question and its answers. There is a difference between 10 minutes and 5 minutes.Thank you!
Here is one trick you can learn right now that will improve your love life dramatically…
I came upon this trick via watching old Tony Robbins videos, and well…
Now, there is a whole science to this, but the very short version of this is that using this one weird trick it will build a connection between you and the one you love that improves communication, understanding, and connection between the two of you that makes it easier and easier to have an incredible time together.
Okay, so here is the trick…
Breathe in sync with your lover.
Men, I’m talking to you specifically because this is something you probably haven’t thought of. I certainly didn’t.
When you are talking to, kissing, or making love to your wife - synchronize your breathing with hers.
Think of it like a dance. You are keeping time together, moving as one on the same beat. And as long as you dance together, you make beautiful music.
Breathing at the same rate as someone else instantly increases your connection without realizing it. It even helps you notice other things like small reactions or responses both positive and negative that can allow you to react better.
It might seem like a small thing, and it is, yet the difference in connection and response is remarkable.
Do it yourself. Next time you are talking to your significant other, watch their breathing and match it and as you get better at doing that, remember to use it anywhere you wish to improve your connection.
You will find she responds more to you and feels more connected to you than ever before and as you probably already know the greater the connection the better life is for both of you.
It’s as easy as breathing.
P.S. I unpack more ideas in Creative Genius.